They grow up so fast!
I am feeling very nostalgic these past couple of weeks. My youngest biological child, Brad is graduating from high school tomorrow. As I write this, I have a lump in my throat and tears about to fall down my cheeks. I went through this last year with my oldest biological child, Annie. This is one of the pitfalls of having children close in age (13 months apart) – each phase stops abruptly – FOREVER!
When they were babies, I would get one out of a phase and another grew into that phase right away, which was actually nice. One was done with the bottle and one was still with their bottle. One grew out of the crib and one was still in a crib. One gave up the pacifier, one still had the pacifier. Potty training went from one right to the other. But as my son grew out of the phase, then that phase was done! Done for good! Some of those phases I was glad to be done with like diapers. Other phases I never wanted to end – hugging and kissing me goodbye, calling me Mommy (now it’s Mom), tucking them in at night. Oh boy, here come those tears!
The phase of high school graduation, growing up and becoming adults is one that I would like to have had some time in between, some time to adjust. Yeah…that’s what I am doing – adjusting.
I haven’t been able to come up with words for how I feel as my children leave the “nest”. It is exciting and scary, happy and sad, wonderful and horrible, joyful and painful. My son has chosen to join the Navy. I could not be more proud and scared all at the same time. I would never have guessed this was the path my son would choose. Yet again, I would have never guessed my daughter would want to be a nurse!
One lesson I have learned through my children is that we have to let them make decisions for themselves when it comes to what they want to become. I trust that God is guiding them and leading them and the rest is up to them. I trust that they know what they want and are going out and grabbing it!
But another lesson I have come to learn is this – be careful what you pray for because it just might come true! I spent 7 years of my life praying that God bring more children into my life. So what happened? I met the man God wanted me to be with who has two amazing daughters. I get to help them become the people God wants them to be – what an amazing gift! I am so blessed!
Thank you God for the gift of my children! And thank you for the gift of my husband’s children. I get to watch two more children grow up and become adults! What more could I want?
Kay Berg is a bio mom of two children. Annie is 19, and Brad is 18. She is also step-mom to Bethany, 15, and Meagan 13. She has been married to her husband, Rod for almost 6 years. She is the Director of Religious Education, and Youth Minister at a Catholic church in Northern Wisconsin. Kay and Rod are learning how to blend their family on a daily basis, sometimes it goes well and sometimes not. But each day is a new day to learn and grow.