“Be in the World with Authentic Self-Hood.” (Charles Christiansen, OT) Get to know yourself better. Know who you are, what you stand for. Know what your likes and dislikes are. Give yourself a chance to have downtime so you can decompress/be alone with your thoughts/ be at peace with yourself and to be aware of your thoughts and feelings.
2. Strive for Wellness.
What feeds your Soul? Strive to be more aware of how healthfully you eat/drink/exercise and care for your body and soul. How do you manage stress? How well do you know your own body? Do you know what feels good for you? Do you know how to give yourself pleasure and take care of your own sexual needs? Getting regular exercise and getting your body moving is not only great for your heart but also helps to relieve stress and boost energy in everything you do! Participate in meaningful activities (to you) EVERYDAY.
3. Care for Your Relationship.
“Real intimacy depends on truth-lovingly told-especially in the bedroom” (Joyce Brothers) Work on achieving depth as a couple. Break free from negative patterns of communication by acknowledging them and working on growth/maturity together. Aim to give your partner the loving attention he or she deserves. Plan activities and set goals together both for the short and long-term. Establish rituals together but also be spontaneous sometimes!
4. Carve Out Time.
Create the time to spend together and aim for quality (especially if you don’t have quantity!). Find a window, even if you have busy lives. Caring for the relationship requires time set aside for each other on a regular basis. The more you and your partner make time for intimacy together, the more you’ll want to carve out time for it every day!
5. Seek to Achieve Balance
The trickiest thing in life is balance, but when you come close to achieving it, you know because you feel happier! Strive to achieve balance between Work/Play/Self Care/Care Giving/Time for Self/Time for Relationship Building/Intimacy. When your time in an area tips too far in one direction (too much time working for example) then simply become aware and balance it back out as soon as you can.
6. Have intimate connections frequently!
Break Free from Routine and Mix Things Up! Don’t fall into the trap of same place, same way mentality! There are so many ways to experience pleasure and deepen intimacy together–In a safe, loving relationship, the possibilities are endless!