My daughters have a little sister, Peyton, who just celebrated her second birthday, and Ayden, who is about to celebrate his third birthday. They are both Jeff and Molly’s children. Molly is my daughter’s stepmom. Most people would call them my daughter’s half-siblings, but I’m really not fond of that label. They are their brother and sister. Period. I look at both Ayden and Peyton, and I see traits of my daughters when they were little. From the time Ayden began talking, Molly noticed the confusion on his face when his sisters called me mom and his mom Molly. She chose the name, Mama Trish for her children to call me. Children don’t learn only from what we tell them. They learn by watching us. They learn by our day-to-day actions. If we tell them to be nice, but we honk and scream out the window at another driver, they probably aren’t going to learn tolerance and patience. We really try to practice what we preach. The picture above is a good example. I went trick-or-treating with Jeff, Molly, and all of the kids this year. Ayden and Peyton know me, and this fosters a good relationship between all four siblings. Molly and I hope this will last through the years. A couple of weeks ago, we attended our first birthday party for one of Molly’s kids. We attended Peyton’s second birthday party. I wrote more on this topic on Her View From Home. Molly and I both feel that if Bob and I are present for events for Peyton and Ayden, that perhaps the siblings will remain close as they grow older. I am an only child, so it’s important to me for my girls to have strong bonds with all of their siblings.
Me reading to Ayden & Ali watching
Peyton and Ayden might not be my children, but I still care for them. I still consider them family. I see them just as I would if I had a sister with children. I’ve even offered to take them for Molly in the past when she was sick or in a bind, and I would do it in a heartbeat. Would you as a biomom take your stepmom’s kids in a bind? Would you as a stepmom invite the biomom in your life to your children’s events? What if it meant bringing your children closer?
Family Photo, by Photography by Bethany.
Trish Eklund is taking a nontraditional approach to parenting children after divorce and remarriage. Raising her two daughters of ten and fourteen with her husband, ex-husband, and his wife, they consult one another on all parenting decisions. Trish has been featured on www.playground-magazine.com, and www.bigblendedfamily.com. She is a regular writer on www.herviewfromhome.com, writer and co-editor for Her View From Omaha. Follow her on Twitter: @trishiewriter, Google +, and Pinterest.