“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”-Joseph Campbell
I have never really been the New Year’s-resolution-type. I like the idea of them, but it seems like the more time people spend talking about something and less time actually acting on it, the more likely they are to fail. That has been my experience anyway.
Every little tiny choice that we make affects us and therefore each little choice affects the larger choice. At the time we may think that it’s just something small, like taking a different route home or choosing not to follow through with a punishment. Each small decision you make is a ripple in the water. By not deciding, you’re still deciding something, leaving other decisions there for the taking for other people to make. This has been an issue for me in the past. I have always wanted to be the polite person, waiting for everyone else to pick what they wanted first, then I would choose out of the leftovers. Unconscious choices are the worst kind of choices because they are not deliberate choices, and they usually lead to self-destructive behavior. Instead of making unconscious choices, make conscious choices.
Decisions in blended families affect more than one household, so every decision made by everyone no matter how tiny has the power to ripple across the entire pond. For this new year I plan to forgo the resolutions and concentration on life’s choices, one small decision at a time.
What are your favorite blended family traditions? Do you make New Year’s resolutions?
Trish Eklund is taking a nontraditional approach to parenting children after divorce and remarriage. Raising her two daughters of ten and fourteen with her husband, ex-husband, and his wife, they consult one another on all parenting decisions. Trish has been featured on www.playground-magazine.com, and www.bigblendedfamily.com. She is a regular writer on www.herviewfromhome.com, writer and co-editor for Her View From Omaha. Follow her on Twitter: @trishiewriter, Google +, and Pinterest.